DEAR ABBY: I have a 6-year-old daughter and a 3-year-old son who have no modesty at all. I don't make a big deal about private parts. They sometimes bathe together and will jump in the shower with me or my husband. Because of this, they'll get into our pool or hot tub naked if there isn't a swimsuit around. Our backyard is completely private. No one can see in, so I have no problem with it.
However, when my in-laws are in town, they are appalled and turn it into a big deal. Then my husband freaks out, scolds the kids and makes them put their clothes on.
First of all, they are our children and we are raising them. Second, if my husband didn't want them swimming or running around the house naked, then the kids should have been told before their grandparents arrived. I would understand that if the kids were older, it might be inappropriate, but they are still so young.
Am I too laid-back, or are my in-laws too uptight and we should just let the kids be kids and have fun? -- UNASHAMED IN FLORIDA
DEAR UNASHAMED: You are not too laid-back, and your in-laws may not be too uptight. The difference in your attitudes regarding nudity may be a result of the generation gap. I do think it's hypocritical of your husband to reprimand the children for doing something that's usually acceptable, because it sends a confusing message. He should explain to the kids that when "company" comes, they will need to cover up so they don't make the guests uncomfortable.