DEAR ABBY: I am a 40-year-old man. I have worked at my current job for two years and love it, even though I earn only two-thirds what I did at my prior position.
My problem is, I think I'm in love with my boss. She's an amazing person -- very sexy -- and I can't stop thinking about her. The woman I loved died two weeks before I took this job, and I'm still not ready to date again. Oh, my boss is married, so there's no way I can hook up with her.
How can I stop having feelings for my boss? Should I just quit? I attempted to a month ago, but she gave me a raise. -- CRUSHING IN MINNESOTA
DEAR CRUSHING: If you are crushing on your boss and fantasizing because you think she's "amazing and sexy," I beg to differ with you. You are ready to date.
You say last month you were given a raise when you mentioned quitting. It appears you are a valued employee at that company. Before you jeopardize a job you love and for which you are being increasingly well-compensated, I urge you to dip your foot into the dating pool of eligible women. Now!