DEAR ABBY: I am engaged to a wonderful, loving, respectful man I have known for seven months. But when he drinks too much, he starts saying I should meet someone else because he's not good enough for me. It's like he's trying to drive me away.
Do you think this is how he really feels? He says if I want to leave, he'll understand, because I deserve someone better. What should I do? -- ENGAGED IN NORTH CAROLINA
DEAR ENGAGED: Talk to your fiance about this when he's sober. Realize that your wonderful, loving, respectful gentleman may have a drinking problem, so be prepared in advance by visiting an Al-Anon group.
It should be plain to you that he has self-esteem issues that could have a negative impact on your relationship if they aren't dealt with. So make your engagement a long one to be sure he's willing and able to do that.