DEAR ABBY: I will be having surgery soon to alleviate the embarrassing symptoms of bowel incontinence. I have a great doctor and family support. When nosy people ask why I am going to the hospital, I want to say, "None of your business," or "Be glad you don't have this problem." Neither response seems appropriate. Any suggestions? -- SHY IN THE SOUTH
DEAR SHY: A certain amount of curiosity is normal. If someone asks why you are going to the hospital, all you need to say is, "I'm having a procedure." However, if the person is insensitive and pushes you to be more specific, your response should be, "It's personal." Period.