DEAR ABBY: As an aging adult, I have encountered a situation for the first time that I'm sure will come up again. An acquaintance has just passed away. It was someone I didn't know well. We would like to send a donation to honor the deceased. However, the only organization mentioned in the obituary is one we cannot support. Should we ignore our beliefs and honor the individual, or is there some other way to honor the person while maintaining (and funding) our "side" of this issue? -- FIRST-TIME DILEMMA
DEAR F.T.D.: You do not have to send a donation to the organization mentioned in the announcement. Another way to honor the deceased would be to write a short note to the family expressing how much you admired their loved one and offering condolences.