DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together for 10 years and have four children. Two years ago, we went through a rough patch and separated. After working through our problems, we moved back in together recently.
Over the last few months, I have noticed that I become depressed whenever he's around. It's nothing he does. He's nice and has improved himself over the last two years, but I miss living without him. I wish we would get a divorce so I could go back to living with just my children.
Do I feel this way because of low self-esteem, or is it something else? I'm not sure what to make of it, and your advice would be greatly appreciated. -- SECOND THOUGHTS IN OHIO
DEAR SECOND THOUGHTS: It appears that although you and your husband worked through your problems enough to move back together, there's still more work to be done to repair your relationship.
Be careful what you wish for. Whether your attraction to him has simply grown stale or you have fallen completely out of love with him, I can't guess. But with four children in the picture, I hope you will schedule some sessions with a licensed marriage counselor before making any final decisions about making that wish of yours come true.