DEAR ABBY: I have been dating this guy for a year and a half and he's not into making love. He's happy if we only do it once a month and, when he does give in, he will only do the same old position. I, on the other hand, enjoy sex.
My ex (we have been apart eight years) is now in a sexless marriage. We started hooking up six months ago -- just for sex -- and it is awesome. Part of me feels guilty because I'm against cheating, but I need sex. What should I do? -- CHEATING IN THE NORTH
DEAR CHEATING: Because the man you have been dating for a year and a half is a sexual mismatch, you need to end the romance. It would be kinder than continuing to cheat on him.
Your married ex may seem like an oasis in the sexual desert right now, but don't waste more time on him. He isn't your future; he's your past for good reason, I'm sure -- so keep him there.