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by Abigail Van Buren

Husband's Secret Teenage Affair Has Awkward Epilogue

DEAR ABBY: When my husband was a teenager, he had an ongoing affair with his mother's 20-plus-years-older friend "Nicolle." He would call her by a nickname to signal he wanted sex.

Fast-forward three decades. His family, unaware of their illicit and illegal relationship, regularly invites Nicolle to our family functions. They even call her by that pet nickname, unaware of the connotations.

Their affair ended years before I met my husband. But whenever she is around, she follows him like a lost puppy. How do I get over being uncomfortable and angry at her? I know the truth, but she doesn't know I know. And, of course, my husband doesn't want his family to know. What do I do? -- KNOWING TOO MUCH

DEAR KNOWING: Have you spoken to your husband about this? He should talk to Nicolle and say, "My wife knows about us, and she is bothered by it." He should also tell her to stop following him around or decline future invitations to the family gatherings.

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