DEAR ABBY: My husband has ongoing relationships with two of his exes' daughters. One girl's mother is deceased, and he has been divorced from the other for more than 20 years. He allows them to call him "Dad" even though they are adults and he has been married three times over.
I don't understand why he has allowed this to go on, but he blows me off when I bring it up. Am I being petty for having concerns, or should I just let them be? -- CONCERNED SPOUSE
DEAR CONCERNED: Yes, you are being petty. Your husband may have been the most stable and loving parental male figure in those women's lives, which is why they still call him "Dad." Their relationship should not diminish the one he has with you, unless you make them feel unwelcome because of your own insecurity. So put on a smile, set out the welcome mat and befriend them, and I predict you will reap big dividends.