DEAR ABBY: I have a 6-year-old son who is a very compassionate child. My husband's mother lives with us and recently went through an illness from which she recovered. Twice my son tried to give her a necklace he had made from braided yarn to cheer her up. Abby, she not only refused to accept them, but left them on the floor as if she didn't even want to touch them. She has no reason to dislike my son, but she just cannot appreciate the love he was demonstrating.
As Grandma is not likely to change, I wonder how to help him understand that his sweet but childish gifts are just not valuable to some people. If I say nothing, I am concerned it will hurt him more in the long run.
Personally, I love the pictures and letters and gifts he makes for me, and so does my mother, who lives far away. It makes me ache to see his compassionate gifts rejected to his face by a family member he loves. Your thoughts? -- SENSITIVE MOM OF A SENSITIVE BOY
DEAR SENSITIVE MOM: I can only imagine how your son felt when his grandmother rejected his gifts. It appears your mother-in-law is one of those who dwells more on the price of things than on their value.
If your son was disappointed by the woman's reaction, he needs to know that "not everyone appreciates creative art." But assure him that you and your mother definitely do, and that they are not only welcomed, but also treasured.