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by Abigail Van Buren

Bed-Wetter Can Get Help but He Has to Make the Effort

DEAR ABBY: I have a good friend who is a bed-wetter. It's obvious because he's constantly doing laundry and his home smells bad at times. We once shared a hotel room, and I was awakened in the middle of the night by a strong smell of urine.

He tries to hide his problem, but seems to be doing little if anything to find a solution for it. I want to persuade him to get some help, but I don't feel comfortable saying anything, and I don't want to embarrass him. What can I do? -- CONCERNED FRIEND IN MICHIGAN

DEAR CONCERNED FRIEND: What would you want your friend to do if the situation were reversed, and you were the person with the bed-wetting problem? Friends communicate with each other. Talk privately with this person. Say you think there "may" be a problem and urge him to discuss it with a urologist.

There is help for bed-wetters -- medications, as well as mechanical devices -- that in many cases can fix the problem. But only if the sufferers -- and bed-wetters do suffer -- know help is available and are willing to ask for it.

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