DEAR ABBY: My best friend, "Donna," and I are former co-workers. She divorced recently but has hooked up -- and is shacking up -- with a co-worker of mine, "James." James and I work on the same shift every weekend. Ugh!
James invited a woman to the job for a lunch date. Should I say something to Donna? I'm not a fan of his because he seemed sneaky before the "lunch date." Donna says she's happy. We limit our conversation about him because I hate to badmouth him knowing how she feels about him. But I'm bothered knowing he didn't care enough to not let on to me about his infidelity. It's like he wants me to bring the bad news. I haven't, but I need to know how to proceed.
My husband says I should mind my own business to keep work stress-free. What is your advice? -- HATES WORKPLACE DRAMA
DEAR H.W.D.: For now, I'm voting with your husband. One lunch date is not an affair, and you don't know what James' relationship with the woman may be. It could be innocent, so give him the benefit of the doubt.
However, if he continues to bring her around, I can see how you might want to ask Donna who the woman is. That's not bringing bad news; it's an innocent question.