DEAR ABBY: My wife, "Mimi," and I have been married nine years and together for 14. We have agreed that while we love each other, we are no longer "in love." We have stayed together because we're comfortable.
Mimi has just informed me that she's pregnant with someone else's baby and will be moving out soon. She is all I have known since we have been together. I feel lost and confused and sad. Do you have any advice? -- DEEPLY HURT IN TAMPA
DEAR DEEPLY HURT: Were you aware that your wife -- whom you say you are no longer in love with -- was seeing other men? If the answer is yes, then you should understand that what has happened is a logical progression. If not, then while you were comfortable with each other, you were not open and honest.
That you would feel sad is natural because there is loss involved in the demise of your relationship with Mimi. And so that this doesn't happen in your next relationship, I'm advising you to discuss this with a therapist. You have some grieving to do and it would be better if you don't do it alone.