DEAR ABBY: Last year I started a relationship with a woman. At first everything seemed to flow smoothly, but after a few months we started arguing. We both had issues with irritability and expressing ourselves.
"Nancy" and I broke up seven times in a four-month period. For reasons I have yet to understand, after each breakup and once we had time to cool off, we both wanted to get back together.
We recently went our separate ways again and I thought this was the last time. She has now contacted me and casually proposed getting together to "hang out" for a while. Without batting an eye, I agreed.
I don't know if I'm hung up on her because I'm truly in love with her, or because I'm just unable to move on. As a couple, we work together well -- as long as we aren't together every day. As friends, there's always an undertone of romantic interest.
I can't make heads or tails of my emotions concerning her, or hers for me. Any advice? -- UNABLE TO MOVE ON
DEAR UNABLE TO MOVE ON: Have you discussed this with Nancy? If you haven't, you should. If you both would like more from your relationship than you have been getting, it might benefit the two of you to have some couples counseling.
Sometimes people can be attracted to each other and care about each other, but something prevents the relationship from jelling. Because this push-pull has been going on for so long, it's time to find out the cause.