DEAR ABBY: How do you handle an ex-son-in-law who "confides" in his 9-year-old and 7-year-old children? My granddaughter came to me yesterday and said her dad told her he's not going to pay child support and is going to quit his job. Now she is worried her daddy will become homeless and have to live on the street.
I know he is self-centered. He has started abusing narcotics and is moving in with a girl half his age. I told my granddaughter that no matter what happens, her mom and dad will always love her. There is court-ordered support, but none has been paid. Any advice would be appreciated. -- GRANDPA IN MILWAUKEE
DEAR GRANDPA: "Daddy" is not going to lose his apartment; he has chosen to move in with his girlfriend. That's a lot different than becoming homeless. Reassure your grandchildren, but do not lie. Your daughter should discuss with an attorney the fact that her ex isn't meeting his child support obligation, and contact the state agencies that help to collect it.