DEAR ABBY: I hear people all around me talk about their grandkids and the great times they have. I have grandkids, too, but I don't know how to be a grandmother. My mother didn't have the skill, and I don't know what to do.
I'm in my early 50s, and I'm trying to do things now that I didn't get to do when I was young. I raised my kids. Am I supposed to spend all my time with them? I'm not sure I even want to. Does that make me selfish? -- LOST GRANDMA IN VIRGINIA
DEAR LOST GRANDMA: You don't have to spend "all" your time with your grandchildren. You should, however, see them every few weeks if possible so you can get to know each other.
Because you're not sure how to do that, ask their parents and some of your friends for suggestions on how to entertain them. It could be as simple as taking them to a movie, attending some of their school or sporting events, baking cookies together or taking them to a park during an afternoon.