DEAR ABBY: I recently lost my mom to cancer, and my father has offered her engagement ring to me to propose to my longtime girlfriend. The ring used to belong to my grandmother and has a beautiful quality diamond in a yellow gold setting. My girlfriend and I are not fans of yellow gold.
I know Mom would want my girlfriend to have a ring she loves and will cherish. I was told the setting in Mom's ring is badly worn and the stone is at risk of falling out. Would it be wrong to use the stone and have the "perfect" ring made for my future fiancee? I'm not sure about destroying the original ring. Thoughts, Abby? -- NERVOUS IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR NERVOUS: I don't think it would be wrong. I do think you should talk to a trusted jeweler and take your guidance from him or her.