DEAR ABBY: I am a 63-year-old man living with a 28-year-old woman. She has three children -- ages 2, 6 and 7. They live with us every other weekend. I have fallen in love with them. We are planning on getting married soon, and I want to be sure the kids are secure when I'm gone.
I have an erectile dysfunction problem. She says she doesn't care about sex, but I'm worried she will stray. I was 28 once, and that's all I thought about. I'm afraid she is marrying me for her own benefit -- the house, Social Security and my business.
I love her and her children dearly. She says she loves me, but I'm just not sure. Can you help me figure out what to do? -- TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE?
DEAR TOO GOOD: If you have any doubts about marrying this woman, then you shouldn't do it. However, if you do decide to marry her, first discuss this with your legal adviser and be sure you have an ironclad prenuptial agreement.
As to providing for her little ones in the event of your demise, discuss that with a lawyer who specializes in wills and trusts and who can advise you about the best way to leave money/assets in trust for them after they have reached a certain age -- so the money can't be dissipated prematurely.