DEAR ABBY: Last Christmas I didn't hear from several of my longtime friends. I don't have a computer, but someone looked up online obituaries and was able to tell me they had passed away.
This Christmas I'll be 89. My health isn't the greatest, and I'm thinking of including a note in my cards to the other few good friends I've known for 60 years. I'd like to say how much their friendship has meant to me in case they don't hear from me again.
Is this too morbid? What can you suggest? I like to tie up loose ends. -- NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER IN ALBANY, N.Y.
DEAR NOT GETTING: I don't think it would be morbid as long as you explain the reason you are including that message. Say it like this: "During the last year I learned that several good friends had passed away. I regret that I wasn't able to tell them goodbye. Because none of us has a contract with God, I want you to know how much your friendship has meant to me all these years."
I hope you will write to me again because I'd be interested in knowing what kind of response you get.Read more in: Death | Friends & Neighbors | Holidays & Celebrations