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by Abigail Van Buren

Friend Seeks To Mask True Feelings About Facelift

DEAR ABBY: A very good friend of mine had a facelift. I'm out of the country, so I have only seen pictures of her. I don't think it looks good at all. It looks fake and, in my opinion, has ruined her looks.

What should I say when I see her or when she asks me directly what I think of it? I hate to lie, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. -- HONEST FRIEND

DEAR HONEST: Sometimes people can be "too" honest, so be diplomatic if you are asked directly. Tell her you always thought she was beautiful -- inside and out -- and thought she looked great before, but if she's happy with the result, that's what's important.

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