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by Abigail Van Buren

Revelations Of Infidelity Put Engagement Ring In Limbo

DEAR ABBY: I am a gay male and my boyfriend of three years just confessed to me that he's been cheating on me for the better part of our relationship. We went to counseling in an attempt to repair the damage that was done, and to see if I could regain any of the trust that I once had in him. During our counseling session he told me that he was sleeping with his stepbrother. I had forgiven him prior to this disclosure and thought I could move past it, but I'm no longer sure I can.

Before he told me about the cheating, I had bought an engagement ring for him and was nearly finished paying for it. Now I am unsure if I want to pay it off because I am so appalled about what has transpired. On the other hand, I'm afraid it will affect my credit history if I don't. What would you do if you were in my position? -- CAN'T MOVE PAST IT

DEAR CAN'T MOVE PAST IT: A partner who would cheat on you for that length of time has a character deficiency and will probably do it again. If I were in your position, I'd end the relationship, finish paying for the ring and then cut my losses by selling it. That way, all of the payments you have made won't go down the tubes, and your credit rating will be intact.

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