DEAR ABBY: My soon-to-be daughter-in-law complains about my son to me. She's not happy with his job or his boss, but he is. She says he embarrasses her and gets upset when his work must come first. Abby, my son is in charge of the company.
I don't understand why she would marry someone she feels this way about. I struggle with whether to talk to my son about it or not. I'm afraid he will say something to her and she will be upset with me. He is a happy young man, and it seems his fiancee only wants to change him. He's almost 30, and I don't see him changing to her satisfaction. Please advise. -- BITING MY TONGUE FOR NOW IN ARIZONA
DEAR BITING: Your son's fiancee is complaining to the wrong person. Before talking to your son about her complaints, talk to her about them and suggest she talk to him. If your son is happy in his job, happy with his employers and being well compensated for his work ethic and ability, she should be happy for him, not embarrassed. It's important that he know how she feels before the wedding, because if he learns about it afterward, there will be problems.
However, if she's unwilling to communicate her feelings to your son, then let him know she has "concerns" about his job and suggest he discuss them with her before they say any "I do's."