DEAR ABBY: One of my friends who I work with is getting married this summer. She recently asked me for my address and, since we also went to school together, asked me to give her a few other friends' addresses as well. So imagine my surprise when my friends all received invitations to her wedding in the mail and I did not.
I think it's possible that my invitation legitimately was lost in the mail or it may have been an honest oversight. However, I realize it's also possible that she wants to keep her wedding small and decided against inviting me.
How do I politely ask if I'm invited to her wedding? I've tried bringing up the subject in conversation at work, but I'm afraid it would be rude to directly ask if I'm still invited. I consider her a good friend and get along great with her fiance, so I'm thinking it was an honest mistake. -- TIRED OF BEING "MINNESOTA NICE"
DEAR TIRED: I don't think that being direct would be rude. Because you consider her a good friend, ask whether your wedding invitation could have been lost in the mail because it's possible it may have been. If she responds that you are not invited, you'll not only know where you stand, but also that SHE is NOT "Minnesota Nice."