DEAR ABBY: My husband and I were going along in life, doing it our way, until we decided we wanted to return to the church, so we stopped drinking and smoking pot. We hit a rough patch in that journey and divorced, but we didn't stop going to church. It's crazy, I know. After we divorced, I knew I messed up and deep down I knew I loved him.
So, now that we have remarried, it seems like he's taking the role of Christian husband back to biblical times. This means he is the head of the house (which I get), but to the point where I am almost like a fixture.
I would say I'm here for my looks, but I am overweight. I would say it's for the sex, but it isn't happening morning, noon and night, if you know what I mean. I would say it is the money, but now, after his last raise, he makes more than I do.
He cooks most of the time because he gets home before me. The house is always clean, and we share the household bills and expenses. So, I'm kinda lost and confused. Do I have a purpose here? Or am I only here to help pay the bills? -- STARTING TO WONDER
DEAR STARTING TO WONDER: Only your husband can answer that question. However, part of a husband's duties to his wife is to make her feel "honored and cherished," and if that isn't happening, your remarriage is in trouble. Marriage counseling (possibly within the church) might help you to reconnect with each other, and I strongly recommend it. Unless you find out why you're unhappy and fix it, this marriage will not last.Read more in: Marriage & Divorce