DEAR ABBY: My fiance and I are in a long-distance military relationship. We have discussed eloping to Las Vegas so I can move with him. My mother isn't enthusiastic about it. She would like to be there for my wedding, but my fiance comes from a large family. Eloping would be our way of not excluding anyone.
I feel guilty for wanting this to be just the two of us. Should I plan a small wedding for my mother's sake, or have a reception when we get back from Las Vegas? -- AMBIVALENT IN TEXAS
DEAR AMBIVALENT: Why not do both? Explain to your parents -- and your fiance's -- that you would like to be married quickly and are thinking of doing it in Las Vegas. Offer them the opportunity to meet you there. Then have a reception for the extended family later, after you both return.