DEAR ABBY: My wife has gained a little weight and has become self-conscious about how she looks. I have told her she's still beautiful. We haven't been intimate in three months and I think it's because she's afraid I won't like how different she looks without clothes.
I don't know how to tell her that my love for her isn't based on her physical beauty. It's based on who she is as a person. That's what is beautiful to me. Do you have any feedback for me? -- LOVING HER IN LOUISIANA
DEAR LOVING HER: Before jumping to conclusions about why you and your wife haven't been intimate, I think you should ask her directly. It may have nothing to do with her weight -- and it could be something she should discuss with her gynecologist.
Of course, it never hurts to tell a woman that she's beautiful because of who she is in your eyes and that she always will be. It's a song we women never tire of hearing -- and the chorus is always welcome music.