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by Abigail Van Buren

Wife Seeks Separation From Husband's Overheated Bed

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 48-year-old woman. Occasionally, I suffer from night sweats and have had a couple of hot flashes.

My husband enjoys turning on the mattress heater in our bed. He has turned my side on by mistake a few times, which caused me to roast and have an uncomfortable night. Even when he heats only his side it's too hot for me. I wake up sweating and see him lying naked, with all his covers flipped onto me!

I have suggested he cuddle with me if he's cold. But he insists on using the electric heater. I don't see any reason to waste the electricity, especially when it makes me uncomfortable. I am thinking about separate beds. Please help. -- OVERHEATED IN IDAHO

DEAR OVERHEATED: Separate beds might be a good idea. That's a practical solution for some couples. But before making the investment, have a talk with your doctor about your hot flashes (if you haven't already), because they may be caused by hormonal changes in your body, and he or she may be able to recommend a medication that can help with them.

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