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by Abigail Van Buren

Woman Still Nursing Wound of Breakup Nine Years Ago

DEAR ABBY: I recently found out my ex-boyfriend married the girl he cheated on me with, and they have had a baby. I didn't think it would affect me because it has been nine years since our breakup, but I feel devastated and sad all over again. I constantly wonder why he was blessed with the happy ending I was wishing for. I ask myself why I haven't met anyone worthwhile.

I am scared to go through the hurt and pain again, so I put on a smiling face for everyone. I want to forget this miserable relationship and be happy. What can I do to move on with my life? -- LOST IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR LOST: That's a good question, and I'm glad you asked because it means you may finally be ready to do it.

One way to move forward would be to keep busy so you won't brood. Make an effort to meet new people, because the saying "no risk, no reward" is true. If you have saved any mementos of your relationship with your ex-boyfriend, box them up and put them away -- or get rid of them entirely because this chapter of your life is finished.

I can't guarantee this will bring you another romance, but it will be a step in the right direction.

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