DEAR ABBY: I lost my best friend to AIDS in '95, my father to cancer in '06 and my husband/lifetime partner to a heart attack in '07. My greatest support, John, moved away the following year. A father, friend and partner -- too many losses. John filled the holes in my heart, but he's also gone now, from leukemia.
I mourn my losses, but cherish the love I have been given. Please remind your readers to appreciate whom and what they have. Don't wait for a "special" day. Call the people you love today and tell them how much they mean to you. I'm calling my mother now. -- MIKE IN NEW ORLEANS
DEAR MIKE: I'm sorry for the losses of your father, your best friend, your partner and John. I'm passing your message along because I, too, believe the time to hand roses to those we care about is when they are still able to smell them.