DEAR ABBY: I am considering proposing to my girlfriend, "Angela." My problem is, I'm having doubts because I don't know if she is "The One" -- or if such a thing really exists. I don't want to lose her because I'm searching for some mythical goddess on a pedestal. Angela is my best friend and I'd do anything for her. I don't want to string her along, but I'm not sure if what I'm experiencing is just cold feet.
Next year I will be in medical school through the military. I think I want to move our relationship forward, but I could use some advice. Please help me make sure I don't hurt her, either by proposing when I shouldn't, or by leaving in search of the Holy Grail of relationships. -- ANONYMOUS IN AMERICA
DEAR ANONYMOUS: Why are you are putting this pressure on yourself now? Because you are unsure, you should leave for medical school. Once you are there, you will be immersed in your studies and you will also meet others. If your feelings for Angela are as strong as they are now after six months, revisit the idea of proposing marriage. But don't do it now if in your heart you're looking for a woman with qualities Angela doesn't possess, because it would be unfair to both of you.