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by Abigail Van Buren

Secret Marriage May Not Be Secret Much Longer

DEAR ABBY: I secretly married a man 14 years ago. No one knew about it. We lost contact for several years, but now we are talking again. I'd like to spend the rest of my life with him.

He's happy living where he is right now, but if we did get back together, people would assume I just let a man move in with me. I don't usually care what people say about me, but this is a small town!

If Mr. Wonderful gives me another chance, how should I handle this? And how should I introduce him to people? -- KIND OF MARRIED IN KENTUCKY

DEAR KIND OF MARRIED: There is nothing to be embarrassed about. If you never divorced, introduce him as your husband, of course. It's the truth. If you are questioned, all you need to say is, "We were married, became estranged, and now we're back together."

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