DEAR ABBY: Ten years ago, while I was still in college, I dated and fell in love with a married man I'll call "Jon." The split was messy in the end, but since then we have had our closure and moved on with our lives -- divorce for him, and marriage for me.
I recently learned that Jon may be taking a position in my small company (only nine people). I believe we can be cordial, but should I approach the subject with him, or pretend it never happened? Do I tell my husband (who knows about the affair) that Jon will be working with me, or keep quiet? -- CONFLICTED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR CONFLICTED: Of course you tell your husband. If you don't and he finds out Jon will be working with you, he will assume that you had something to hide. As to bringing up the past with Jon once he shows up, if he doesn't broach the subject, I don't think you should. Keep the relationship strictly business, for both your sakes.