DEAR ABBY: I recently started dating a woman I have been friends with for a few years. She's smart, funny, has many wonderful qualities, and I'm starting to fall in love with her.
She's attractive -- except for one thing that could easily be fixed. I don't know if I'm being shallow, so if that's the case, please tell me. She has a bit of a mustache.
Is there a way I can tactfully ask her to remove it without hurting her feelings? Or should I just be grateful I found someone who wants to be with me and keep quiet? -- TACTFULLY CHALLENGED
DEAR CHALLENGED: If you and this lady have been friends for years, you should know each other well enough to level with each other. Because the mustache is "distracting," ask her why she has never done anything about it. However, if she opts to keep it, you'll have to love her just as she is.