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by Abigail Van Buren

Teen Feels The Loss Of Her Sister To Sickle-Cell Anemia

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 15-year-old girl, and I have been feeling very sad and down in the dumps lately. I recently lost my younger sister to sickle-cell. I also didn't make my school's soccer team. I have been crying often -- sometimes for no reason, and other times because I'm mad at myself for crying all the time.

I have tried talking to my parents, friends and my family's therapist (we got her because of my sister), but nothing seems to change my mood. It's as if they just don't get how I'm feeling. It also doesn't help that it seems like everyone else's life is so much better compared to mine. If you could offer any advice to help me with my feelings, I would really appreciate it. -- DOWN IN THE DUMPS IN CONNECTICUT

DEAR DOWN IN THE DUMPS: Losing a younger sibling is difficult at any age, but when you are a young teenager, it can be even harder. Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your sister.

I'm glad your family sought guidance from a therapist to help you all through this difficult time. The feelings you are experiencing are normal under the circumstances. But because they are not lessening, it's important you let the therapist know they are causing you additional stress so that, if necessary, you can be evaluated by a psychiatrist. Feelings like the ones you describe can be worked through if they are dealt with in a timely manner and not allowed to fester.

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