DEAR ABBY: I have been having a problem with my husband ever since his mom died. All he talks about is how much he misses her and how he wants to die.
I loved his mother like she was my own, but it has been a year since she went, and I'm getting tired of the attitude and the behavior he displays. He is so mean now that I am thinking of leaving him because I can't take it anymore. Can you help? -- TIRED OF IT
DEAR TIRED OF IT: It is one thing to grieve for a deceased loved one, and quite another to say you wish you could join the person. Your husband is "stuck" in his grieving process and needs professional intervention. Please urge him to get help.
Was he always mean and abusive? If the answer is yes, by all means give serious thought to getting away. If not, tolerate it a little longer -- providing he's willing to admit he needs to talk to someone and follows through.