DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of five years, "Spencer," has always been very sweet -- until this year. This year he has become verbally abusive, telling me I'm a drunk (I don't drink liquor) and insane. (No one else says there is anything insane about my behavior.) Spencer frequently tells me my opinions prove I'm a "jerk."
Until this year, I have been deeply in love with him. I know his verbal attacks on me are unwarranted. All I want is some peace and quiet. Please advise. -- BEATEN DOWN IN L.A.
DEAR BEATEN DOWN: Your boyfriend is showing all the signs of a man who wants out of a relationship, but doesn't have the courage to come out and be direct about it. If you want peace and quiet in your life, find a man who appreciates what you have to offer, doesn't make false accusations and treats you well. You'll find what you're looking for after you tell Spencer you're not drunk, you're not crazy and you're not in love with him anymore, so goodbye.