DEAR ABBY: I have been with "Russell" for four months. We live together and eventually would like to be married. Russ is very honest. He told me he had impregnated a woman prior to me and she was eight months pregnant. I asked him to contact her on my behalf so I can meet her, since we plan on having a future together.
When I called the woman to suggest we meet somewhere, she cursed me out for contacting her and for telling her she can't communicate with Russ unless I'm involved. When Russ told her the same thing, she ordered him not to contact her again.
Russ has tried calling her since then because he wants to be involved in his child's life, but she never called him back. What do you think we should do? -- LOOKING TOWARD THE FUTURE
DEAR LOOKING: What Russell should do -- and you, as well -- is talk with an attorney to establish exactly what his rights and responsibilities will be to his child, once paternity has been established.