DEAR ABBY: I have a question about where and when to have a retirement party. I know it's inappropriate for families to host a baby shower, but is that true of a retirement party?
My husband has worked for a nonprofit for 14 years and will retire in a few months. There isn't an appropriate site for a party at his work. I have suggested an open house at our home a couple of weeks after his retirement date. My daughter thinks her house would be better because we are not supposed to have it.
My son-in-law dislikes entertaining at home, so I know it would be stressful for them. If we have it at our house, we can encourage friends and co-workers to come over again and stay in touch. I love to entertain and would happily prepare the food and decorate. Am I on the right track, Abby? -- HAPPY THAT HUBBY'S RETIRING
DEAR HAPPY: You're absolutely on the right track. No rule of etiquette forbids you from hosting the party for your husband if you wish.
According to Emily Post: "A retirement party may ... be given by family and friends instead of -- or in addition to -- a company party. It's generally a good idea to invite a few of the retiree's close work mates. Because they share a work history with the retiree, they'll be able to speak of specific accomplishments in any speeches and toasts."