DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are in our 70s and have been married five years. I don't understand his telling me that the reason we don't have sex is because I always have too many clothes on. He says it's too much trouble.
I wear normal clothing, and I undress for the occasion. What am I not understanding about his thoughts on this subject? -- CONFUSED IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR CONFUSED: I suspect your husband may not be giving you a straight answer because he's embarrassed. When a man says sex is "too much trouble," it's usually because he's having trouble performing. The problem may be his sex drive has diminished or it could be physical. But it won't be resolved unless he's willing to have a frank conversation about it with his doctor. For your sake, urge him to do it.