DEAR ABBY: I started dating a wonderful man two years ago. We will be getting married in a few weeks and own a house together. He has been a wonderful father to my two children. He loves them very much and the feeling is mutual.
From the start, he knew I wanted to have a child with him, and he said he wanted the same. Last spring I became pregnant by accident, but sadly, had a miscarriage a few months later. When I told him I was pregnant, he was not excited and made comments that caused me stress. After the miscarriage, he acted like nothing had happened, which hurt me deeply because I really wanted that baby.
Now he says he doesn't want a baby anymore -- that he has changed his mind without even considering that I still want one. I'm so lost. Please give me some advice. -- BABY MAYBE? IN PUERTO RICO
DEAR BABY MAYBE?: You and your fiance appear to have a communication problem. Now that you know he has changed his mind about wanting a child with you, you have a right to know why. Discussing this with the counsel of a neutral mediator would be helpful before your trip to the altar.
Because the agreement between you was that you would be enlarging your family, you may need to rethink whether you want to go through with the wedding. If that's the case, you may also need the help of an attorney to separate from him financially because you own property together.