DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend of six years spends weekends at my house where she has her own room with her clothing and personal things. Wanting her to be comfortable here, I have bought her some robes, PJs, slippers, etc. to use when she's here.
One thing she never seems to have is underwear. She has even borrowed mine on occasion. So I shopped online and put a dozen pair in her dresser drawer. I know her size, style and color preference, so I thought I might be the best boyfriend ever for doing it.
Oddly enough, she made no comment. And when I asked, she said, "What kind of boyfriend does that? It's sooo weird."
Abby, I was crushed. Did I go too far? Please tell me I'm not weird. -- DISMAYED IN DUNKIRK, N.Y.
DEAR DISMAYED: You're not weird. You are a giver, and it is a trait that should be appreciated. You did not deserve the putdown. Many women would have been touched by your thoughtfulness. I don't know what kind of men your girlfriend has had in her life before you came along, but it seems they didn't spoil her the way you're trying to.