DEAR ABBY: I have a good friend I have known for 15 years. We have been through a lot together and have grown through all of our changes. However, her wardrobe hasn't changed. She still dresses like Betty White's character in "The Golden Girls" from the 1980s.
She is in a fragile state right now because of her recent divorce. How do I tell her to lose the shoulder pads so she can meet a stud? -- WARDROBE MISTRESS IN RHODE ISLAND
DEAR WARDROBE MISTRESS: While your impulse to help your friend is laudable, it would be a mistake to suggest she change her image while she is in a "fragile state." Let some time pass, and then make a date for a day of fun, fashion, beauty and some shopping. When she's stronger and feeling better about herself, mention that now she's a free woman starting a new life, a new image would help with the transition.