DEAR ABBY: I am torn between two decisions. I am a 40-year-old teacher, but I have always wanted to be in law enforcement. I didn't pursue my dream because my fiancee would not marry me if I went into police work.
I have done well over the years, but my heart will not let go of being in law enforcement. My wife gives me the "you have a good job and you need to save for your kids" speech. I feel if I don't at least try to pursue my dream it will always bug me.
Should I suck it up, do my time and be unfulfilled for the next 10 years? I feel like the old "you can be whatever you want to be" speech is an injustice to children if you as a parent can't live up to this rule. What do you think about all this? -- LIVING A LIE IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR LIVING A LIE: I think that at age 40 you should be allowed to do what you want with your life. However, if you decide to pursue police work, you should make certain your family will be well-provided-for in case something happens to you in your high-risk new career.