DEAR ABBY: I was married for five years to a man I was afraid of. He was controlling, uptight and never let me out of his sight. When we divorced, I was happy, and I thought that would be the end of it.
However, I find myself going back to him every time he calls, in spite of knowing who he is and what he did to me. Why can't I get over him and move on? -- BACK AT SQUARE ONE IN OKLAHOMA
DEAR BACK AT SQUARE ONE: Possibly because you are co-dependent, have low self-esteem and are afraid he's the only man you can get. You would rather settle for the familiar than possibly have no one. Because the path you're on is destructive, please get some counseling to help you establish healthier relationships.