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by Abigail Van Buren

Mom Uses Illness to Compete With Girl for Son's Attention

DEAR ABBY: My fiance is an amazing man and I'm lucky to have him, but because he's in the military I don't see him very often. I recently met a guy in one of my college classes who has made it clear that he's attracted to me. I can't help but feel the same about him.

He often asks me to study and hang out with him. Am I being disloyal if I innocently study or hang out with this guy without telling my fiance? -- FRIENDLY FIANCEE IN COLORADO

DEAR FIANCEE: You say the attraction between you and your classmate is mutual. If you start hanging out with him without telling your fiance, then the relationship isn't innocent. If you can't handle the separations, then you don't have what it takes to be a military wife. So do both of you a favor and end the engagement.