DEAR ABBY: My daughter "Denise's" fiance is 12 years older than she is and still lives with his parents. "Leo" is turning Denise into his mother.
I first noticed it when she cut her beautiful long hair short and in the same style as his mother. Now her lipstick shade is the same as Leo's mother's as well as her glasses and clothing.
At a recent gathering I remarked to Leo, "Wow, Denise looks more like your mother than she does me." After that, our relationship soured. Apparently, he didn't like my observation. Was I wrong? -- CREEPED OUT IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR CREEPED OUT: No. But you may have said it to the wrong person. You should have said it to your daughter, who may be doing it because she thinks Leo's mother has great taste. Denise could also be consciously or unconsciously doing this to please him.
There's an old song, "I Want a Girl Just Like the Girl That Married Dear Old Dad." Many men idealize their mothers, and it may be a reason why Leo still lives with his parents.