DEAR ABBY: I have known "Arthur" for more than 20 years. Since Day One, he has wanted more than friendship, but I made it clear that I never wanted more than a platonic relationship. I care about him, but have never had romantic feelings for him.
We spend a lot of time together between relationships with other people. (I was married for eight years out of our 20-year friendship.) Arthur comes over -- we hang out, sometimes share a meal or watch a movie, etc. Then we go to sleep in my bed. He sleeps in my bed, where there's no hanky-panky. I'm content with things as they are. He makes me laugh and I feel good about myself.
However, lately I sense he's becoming too attached. I worry that I might be leading him on even though I've made it clear that I don't want anything romantic or sexual. After 20 years, there are no gray areas left to analyze my intentions.
My friends think what I'm doing is wrong, that I might be keeping Arthur from moving forward in his life. Keep in mind that I encourage him to go out with friends and to date. Am I doing anything wrong that may be hurting him in an indirect way? -- PLATONICALLY CONNECTED IN TEXAS
DEAR PLATONICALLY CONNECTED: You are happy the way things are. Arthur appears to have accepted the relationship on your terms. While he may secretly hope that one morning you will roll over, open your eyes and realize that he's Prince Charming, you have been honest with him from the beginning. I see no reason to end a relationship that is rewarding to both of you because your friends are meddling. Your friends should mind their own business.