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by Abigail Van Buren

Student Needs a Crash Course in Recognizing Teen Romeos

DEAR ABBY: I'm eight months pregnant with my first child. It is my boyfriend's third child. I don't get along with the other children's mothers, but I want my son to have a relationship with his brother and sister. How do I go about getting this to happen? -- HOPEFUL IN ARKANSAS

DEAR HOPEFUL: I applaud you for wanting your son to have a relationship with his half-siblings. Family is important, and when the children are older, it could be beneficial for them.

A way to establish a kinship with the other mothers might be to remind them that, in a sense, you're all members of the same "club." Considering their former boyfriend's history, membership may continue to expand, so it's in everyone's interest to stick together.