DEAR ABBY: Three months ago, my boyfriend, "Doug," gave me a promise ring. I was proud and happy to show it to everyone. But Doug's parents, siblings and his three children don't know he has given me the ring.
It feels odd that he's keeping this milestone of our relationship a secret. He says it's because he's a private person and doesn't tell his family about his personal life. What do you think about this? -- SECRETLY PROMISED IN PORTLAND, MAINE
DEAR SECRETLY PROMISED: I think Doug may not yet be ready to settle down. Or, he may have strained relationships with his parents, siblings and three children.
Before this romance goes any further, you need to be very clear on exactly what Doug is "promising" because this scenario doesn't ring true from where I'm sitting.