DEAR ABBY: It has been a long time since I've told a man I'm interested in him or that I really like him. What advice could you give me to keep me from feeling like an idiot and saying the wrong thing? He's a special guy and I don't want to screw this up. -- NERVOUS IN READING, PA.
DEAR NERVOUS: Do it gradually. Start out by describing the qualities he has that you find special -- his sense of humor, his intellect, his style of dress, his wonderful manners, how kindly he treats others. Another time, tell him how much you enjoy his company, and how comfortable you feel with him because of the things you have in common. Tell him he looks wonderful if he makes the extra effort.
Paying compliments will get your message across. Unless he walks around with his head in a bucket, he'll understand what you're trying to convey. Trust me.